So it’s been a few weeks since J moved in and we officially started living together. Living together has been quite the adjustment for us both. It has been quite eventful with some highs and lows and lots and lots of tissues.

Our first few days together were a real eye opener to a lot things. One thing was how we could handle seeing each other sick. Poor J was feeling under the weather our first night and by morning I was right there with him. Our first official day together in OUR house was spent mostly on the couch with a movie marathon and lots of soup and popsicles. With both of us sick, we were in a very vulnerable state. Unfortunately we both were left in this state for a week or more. Both trying to work and feeling crappy left us in pretty foul moods, and beneath the piles of tissues some “true colors” surfaced.

I’ve learned that living together is a BIG adjustment, especially when two very different personalities try to merge their very different lifestyles. As mentioned before J is a “neat freak” while I am quite the opposite, but struggling to become more organized and less messy. It was only a few days into living together when this issue really came to a head, and words were said. We had a lot of “heart to hearts” and the truth, while it hurt, came out, about how we really felt about each other’s habits. I was quickly bothered by the fact that J did not think about me before acting all the time, while he was bothered by the fact that I was telling him what to do. To keep things private I’m not going to go into the details of our “talks” where we talked things out, but a lot was said, and feelings were hurt. However we both realized that even with the hurt, it was good to be honest with one another.

One of my pet peeves with J is that he sometimes says one thing and does the other or does not follow through. I’m not a fan of change, and so when J said he was going to come straight home, but changed his mind, I got ticked off. Or when he said we were going to spend the day together, and then he sprung the “me time” on me, I got pissed. I am learning I have to be more flexible and less rigid in my ways. I also have to respect that he needs his time. However J also needed to realize that he is living with someone else now, and compromises need to be made, and cups are for drinking out of, not bottles. LOL.

When it was all said and done we both came to the realization that we need to listen more to each other’s needs and even though we’ve had our “spats” we have only created a stronger connection and relationship, because of it. We value honesty and respecting one another. I would love to continue to talk about everything I have learned so far, but unfortunately I’m still sick, sinus infection from my cold, so I’m calling it a night, but will be posting more on our adjustment phase and some “very good highlights” including our 6 months, which was last night .

In the mean time please feel free to share your advice or comments on the adjusting to living together.