when is it a relationship?
Posted by: new beginnings on: April 14, 2011
Relationship~ a state of connectedness between people (especially an emotional or sexual connection)
In this day and age when people are no longer “going steady” the big question is “how do you know when to call it a relationship?”
Everywhere you look; facebook, myspace, etc. it asks you to state your relationship status. How do you know when to switch that status to “in a relationship”? Does it mean you have eyes for only the person you are dating? Does it mean there is some set time that has elapsed and it just becomes part of an assumption?
Recently J and I discussed this topic in detail. We discussed that it meant that neither person was seeing other people, and we both feel that this has the potential to lead to so much more. So it’s official, tonight J and I are going on our 3rd date with the understanding that we’re now in a relationship 
3 Responses to "when is it a relationship?"
April 18, 2011 at 5:07 pm
Yay for you guys! I’m very happy for you. I am so gun shy of labels right now. For some reason I think it will take away my newfound independence. Also, I’ve rushed into things with just about every other guy in my life (and none of them worked out). So it’s time for me to take it slow. But it sounds like things are amazing between you and J. I’m rooting for you!
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April 14, 2011 at 3:53 pm
YAY!!!!!!!! that is so exciting! I struggled with this too. I figured we were still ‘dating’ even though we weren’t see anything else, but M considered me his girlfriend at that point. It took me awhile to warm up to it, even though I wanted to, it just scared me, that label. Not anymore, obviously
Anyway, I am so happy for you!
April 15, 2011 at 6:43 am
thanks Jolene! Yea I felt the same way at first. I was nervous to take it to this step, only because I’ve rushed into things in my past, and did not see warning signs until it was too late. However this time I’m very guarded and on the look out, but so far not one thing do I see that makes me want to put on the breaks.
It’s funny how we were saying we both can’t get over how we feel and we only went on our 3rd date, but at the same time, we’d been talking for 2 weeks before we went out, and next week will already be a month. Times does fly when you’re having a good time. I do feel like I’ve known him forever already and everything just feels so right. So even though I’m still scared, I welcome the “girlfriend” label with open arms